Last Updated:June 13, 2025, 16:12 IST
Before seeking a ‘soulmate’, you must ‘first meet your soul’
A relationship can either take the form of strength or weakness depending on the mind. (Pixabay Image For Representation)
The search for a soulmate often misses the mark. True connection begins when you first meet your own soul.
It’s a common desire to find that perfect companion. Some even have a long list of qualities they wish their life partner had—tall, thin, smart, kind, with a sense of humour, and so on. While it’s good to know what you prefer, if you are too choosy, you might have to postpone your wedding to another lifetime!
Before seeking a ‘soulmate’, you must ‘first meet your soul’. How can you recognise a soulmate if your own mind is chaotic and you don’t yet know yourself? You don’t know who you are. You don’t know your mind. Your own mind drives you crazy. One minute it wants something and the next minute it wants something else. That is why it is said, “Your own mind is responsible for your bondage and for your liberation, nothing else.”
A relationship can either take the form of strength or weakness depending on the mind. If the mind is strong then a relationship can be like a gift, but if the mind is weak and not in control, then a relationship can feel like bondage.
How does a relationship develop? First is the attraction. But, if you get what you are attracted to too easily, the charm goes away. However, if it becomes just a little bit difficult to have what you are attracted to, then you develop love for it. What happens when you fall in love? When you love someone, you give yourself to that relationship, and start making demands on that relationship. The moment you start demanding, love diminishes. Then you say, “Oh! I have made a mistake.” Now there is struggle and pain to get out of it. And after you get out of it, you get into one more, another one, and the story repeats. A relationship is like two wheels moving together. It needs attention and effort.
The way to make relationships long-lasting is through the right perception, the right observation, and the right expression. The right perception can happen only when you put yourself in the shoes of the other person. Then you need the right observation. The way you react when you perceive something is important. Observe your sensation, tendencies, and patterns. Life is a lesson of just three things—perception, observation, and expression. Every mistake you make is really not a mistake; it is a learning process of the three vital aspects of life.
The author is a humanitarian leader, spiritual teacher and an ambassador of peace. Views expressed in the above piece are personal and solely those of the author. They do not necessarily reflect News18’s views.
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